“You can be unhappy.”

I recently watched a documentary series on Channel NewsAsia, “Facing Death”. It talks about the challenges critically ill patients and their caregivers face.

I could very much relate to all the stories mentioned. I saw shadows of myself within the show.

However one thing struck me the most. A consultant from Dover hospice said in her interview they need to let patients know they can feel sad, they have a right to do that. We try so hard to fight for happiness everyday, but have we forgotten sadness belongs to the other side of the coin. Everyone is trying hard to construct the ideal world of “happiness”, but what does it really mean to be happy? In the ideal world, we were told to share happiness, never sadness because it will make us look weak. Often we hear people say “never be judgemental”, but unfortunately we all start forming images in our heads with every little bit of information.  We size people up. Unfortunately, it will never be a complete picture because we will never know the complete picture. It’s not about looking beyond what is apparent, it’s about moving beyond the apparent. (On a side note, recent campaign by MCI is about not being judgemental. I personally think it’s a meaningful campaign,  and I hope it achieve good results in reminding people to have more empathy. You can look at the series of videos on their Facebook and YouTube page ➡gov. sg)

We watched the movie “Inside out”. We talked about sadness, we admired him.  But has it really changed our lives?

It is sad to think that we have to deliberately remind ourselves it is okay for one to feel sad. There is always a cycle to everything in life, and they go up and down. Nothing will stay up there forever. Did the pursuit of “a happy world” made us lose the sense of empathy?

The best way to connect with people is to show empathy. And empathy is shown by accepting and acknowledging people for who they are. It can be as simple as telling someone “it’s okay, you can be unhappy.”

Thank God!

For 10 secs, I nearly had a heart attack! I thought I lost my ipad, then I realised I left it in the cooking studio. I called the school, no one picked up. I tried to look for Rena’s phone number (my teacher tonight), only to realise I don’t have it. I wasn’t sure which other instructors are still in the studio, but I thought of Angie, so I called her. Thank goodness she was still there and found my ipad! Really  thankful to her,  and thankful to life. No matter how much bad things happen, there are still good things that we should be grateful for.

PHEW! 

Day 41: #Celebratelife365

It’s been a while since I last spoke Japanese proper. As I was walking back to office after lunch today, 2 Japanese ladies stopped me to ask for directions. They spoke minimal English, with some Japanese. I tried my best to provide them with the information with English and my rusty Japanese, but they don’t seem to get it. Thinking it will be a small detour that I have to make if I were to bring them to their destination, I decided to walk them there. It took me another 10 mins of lunch hour.

I’m really happy to walk with them and talked along the way. I’ve always love many things Japanese, that’s why I took up the language. They also reminded me I should do some revisions to brush up on my Japanese. (Sensei don’t be mad!)

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Day 40: #Celebratelife365

Lunches recently are so much more fun. Have been meeting up with old friends for lunch. Today its with my primary school friend. We were classmates since primary 1, that makes 23 years of friendship. My primary school class is rather close knitted one, we still met up and have gatherings very often after graduation. Right now we have a group chat.

Time always passes by so quickly when you spend it with the right company. We had so much to catch up. An irony that this friend and I stay quite near each other, but we have to meet up in town because our offices are near.

I’m going to ask more friends the next time, and that can be another mini gathering.

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Day 39: #celebratelife365

I am now a regular of the vegetarian restaurant in Chinatown. I lunch there almost every weekday. The uncle calls me by my name.

Everyday he looks forward to sharing new dishes with me. He knows I love noodles and soups, sometimes I don’t even have to say anything, and he knows what I want.

This place feels like home to me. And the people too.

They don’t only feed me. They feed my soul too.

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Day 38: #celebratelife365

This post is for yesterday. I missed writing.

A friend came down specially to Chinatown from Dhoby Ghaut to have lunch with me, and to my favourite vegetarian place. Friend is not a fan of vegetarian food but agreed to it nonetheless. One thing I learnt from this action, this friend is not a hi-bye type. 🙂

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Day 37: #celebratelife365

We never know how much we own until we lose something. I learnt this lesson long ago, and one of the things I want to achieve life is to have no more regrets.

I told myself I’ll never want to have another regret in life when Queena passed away. I never got to see her for the last time before she left. For months I kept delaying my visit because of school work.

Had the time and space to myself today, and I reflected. Don’t wait to show your love to your loved ones. Don’t wait to do anything and you lose the chance. Sometimes you need to wait for the best time, but don’t procrastinate when it’s the good time.

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Day 34: #celebratelife365

I missed out on yesterday, so I’m making it up today. There will be 2 posts today. Writing this as I’m in the bus on my way for dinner.

Yesterday I met my love in Proximity for lunch. We were not just working partners but great friends as well. And the friendship lasted till today, even after I’ve left the place for 7 months.

It’s been a while since we last met up, our last drinks session was at least 5 months ago. Food is very important to us, we used to be on the hunt for “real” food. Cheap and good food. We went slightly atas yesterday. No terrible food court stuff (we always prefer hawker centers for the food quality), and went to a Korean restaurant. Food was alright, and they took a long time to serve. But that gave us the time to talk.

I know this woman knows me quite well. But I didn’t expect she knows me THAT well! I was really touched and made me missed the days when we were working together. We basically relied so much on each other to get work done. The late nights, the rushing of briefs, weekend whatsapp for work, we both just want to get the best work done. You want to know who your buddies are when in a war, and she is one of them. I’ll want to work with her again, if ever there’s a chance.

Very often you see and interact with your colleagues more than your family, it’s important you can enjoy the company of your colleagues. She’s one girl who definitely made my life sweeter in office. Thank you my love.

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Day 35: #Celebratelife365

I had a good dinner to end the work week. Went to Suprette in Kam Leng Hotel for dinner. Food was good, and free flow of fries! What caught my eye was the hotel’s decoration. It’s rustic, charming in it’s own ways. I did a quick research on my phone.

I’ve always loved doing staycations, especially in unique hotels. Kam Leng definitely got my attention, and the price is very attractive. Maybe, the next time…hmm

Nonetheless, always happy to discover a new place. I should go to bed now. Got a play to catch tomorrow. Looking forward to the show!

Goodnight everyone!

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Day 33: #Celebratelife365

So happy the pitch today went well! Client was happy, very excited. The best part of it is that we will use social media platforms besides Facebook. It has become a “pay to play” platform, and no longer a good to use, but must have social broadcast channel. New challenges fire up new energy and motivation. And personally I am one who likes to explore, but often what I can do with my team is very dependent on the client. We are very thankful this client is so opened to taking our recommendations and try new platforms. Of course, I am also glad that she likes my strategies and recommendations. 🙂

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