Life is about choices

Not something new, but it’s a reminder from the conversation with Edgar this afternoon.

Some things are destined to be, like which family you are born into, who are your parents etc. But who you are as a person, what you do, your lifestyle , habits etc, you decide.

Stop complaining your life is horrible. If you don’t like it, do something to change it. If you are unhappy, then do something that makes you happy. You don’t like to drink coffee, and choose to drink tea.

If you feel overworked and tired, take a break. You will find yourself a more efficient worker when you are recharged. You CAN choose to take a break and continue with work, or you can force yourself to finish it first before taking a break. Find a way that suits you most, and make the choice.



Your worth is not determined by others. You are worth based on who you are. You don’t live life in pain or happiness based on the scores other people give. People may view you with imperfections, but don’t let it get to you. Take the feedback constructively.

There’s no need to punish yourself with unhappiness or anger experienced by others. It belongs to them, not you. Instead, create happiness so that you can share to cheer unhappy people up.

Perfection, imperfection, all so relative. We all know milk is good for healthy bones growth, but it’s toxic to those lactose intolerant. It’s the same logic.

Yes everyone is different. But everyone deserves to be master of their own life and destiny.

10 Things I do to Thrive!

This is a busy weekend. There is a big pitch, and I only have the weekend to work on the strategy deck. Submission is on Monday.

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However it doesn’t mean life will be a wreck. Being a firm believer of #Thrive, there are things you can do any day to make the day positive. 10 things I do today to thrive:

1. I walk at least 10,000 steps today. (Numbers from my Fitbit Flex.)

2. I drink at least 1.8l of water. (Similarly, I monitor this using my Fitbit Flex.)

3. I spend at least 15 minutes reading a good book. (Current read: How Google Works by Eric Schmidt & Jonanthan Rosenburg)

4. I watch one Ted video.

5. I get at least 15 minutes of sun today. (Sun helps us produce Vitamin D for the body. Don’t forget your sunblock too!)

6. I help someone in need.

7. I take some good pictures.

8. I spend at least 15 minutes reading the latest National Geographic magazine. (I have the annual subscription on my Ipad.)

9. I will celebrate life.

10. I write a blog post. (almost done!)

Happy weekend everyone! How do you #thrive?

The opposite of love

A good friend once asked me, what is the opposite of love. I answered “hate”. I was wrong.

“Indifference”, is the answer.

There will be hate when you still love, or has feelings for the person. You still care, that’s why your feelings for the person felt different.

People in your life come and go. We all have such experiences. I no longer feel anything for the ex-husband, the past doesn’t haunt me.

I’ve learnt to let it go. People can be angry, upset with me, and it doesn’t affect me. I cannot please everyone in the world. I don’t have to punish myself with other people’s anger. There is no need for such transfer of pain.

Wisdom doesn’t come with age only. It comes with experiences and learning from them.

Taken on my 29th birthday, I celebrated a new chapter in my life.

Thorns beneath the smiles

My heart feels heavy. Talking to a friend, about another friend who is having some issues with his marriage.

This other friend never fails a grin, and his Brit humour not to be missed. I was shocked to hear what happened. Life is so fragile.

Earlier today, one of the most respected criminal lawyer in Singapore, Subhas Anandas passed away due to a heart attack. He was aged 67. He has handled many high level cases, and his partner at the firm gave the number 1500, the cases Subhas handled in his career.

People seemingly successful and happy. But what is their true expression behind the facial features. Subhas had so many pills to take, I wonder he was able to keep up with it. I am sure his life must have been stressful, though it was a job that he believed in.

Look beyond what you can see. Feel with your heart, and you shall see in the darkness.