The opposite of love

A good friend once asked me, what is the opposite of love. I answered “hate”. I was wrong.

“Indifference”, is the answer.

There will be hate when you still love, or has feelings for the person. You still care, that’s why your feelings for the person felt different.

People in your life come and go. We all have such experiences. I no longer feel anything for the ex-husband, the past doesn’t haunt me.

I’ve learnt to let it go. People can be angry, upset with me, and it doesn’t affect me. I cannot please everyone in the world. I don’t have to punish myself with other people’s anger. There is no need for such transfer of pain.

Wisdom doesn’t come with age only. It comes with experiences and learning from them.

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Taken on my 29th birthday, I celebrated a new chapter in my life.

Thorns beneath the smiles

My heart feels heavy. Talking to a friend, about another friend who is having some issues with his marriage.

This other friend never fails a grin, and his Brit humour not to be missed. I was shocked to hear what happened. Life is so fragile.

Earlier today, one of the most respected criminal lawyer in Singapore, Subhas Anandas passed away due to a heart attack. He was aged 67. He has handled many high level cases, and his partner at the firm gave the number 1500, the cases Subhas handled in his career.

People seemingly successful and happy. But what is their true expression behind the facial features. Subhas had so many pills to take, I wonder he was able to keep up with it. I am sure his life must have been stressful, though it was a job that he believed in.

Look beyond what you can see. Feel with your heart, and you shall see in the darkness.